Five resolutions to help cope with ALS - By Barbara Bronson Gray, RN, MN
Nancy Sterling, a 58-year old Maryland physical therapist with ALS, suggests five resolutions for others with the disease:
1. Plan for some fun. It doesn’t have to be anything major, Nancy says. Gathering friends and family for just about any reason can be fun. For example, she has friends come over for a “dinner and a movie” night every month. The meal is pot luck. Although she gets her nourishment through a PEG (stomach) tube, she enjoys seeing and smelling the food.
Nancy has a friend with ALS who had a leaf raking party. He’s a singer, so many of his friends serenaded him while they gathered leaves. Nancy, who was a singer, too, enjoys having four friends rehearse at her house on Sundays after church, giving her caregivers a chance to get out for a while. The quartet asks her for coaching, which she loves to give – through her DynaVox (a speech-generating device).
Nancy says she loves to go to the theater: “I feel normal there.” She can sit and watch the movie just like everyone else, she adds.
And don’t forget to consider travel. “Your ALS Association care coordinator can help you contact the local chapter at your destination and may be able to help you borrow equipment to use while you’re there,” she suggests. “I was able to borrow scooters in Dallas, Calgary and Ft. Lauderdale.” When Nancy went to Hawaii, she brought her own power chair but borrowed a commode/shower chair and a walker. She was also careful to reserve handicapped-accessible hotel rooms.
2. Read the books and watch the movies you’ve always wanted to get to. Whether opening up a valued tome or using an e-reader or a computer, reading is relaxing, stimulating, eye-opening, and a terrific diversion, Nancy says. You can also enjoy books on tape, get a book on your DynaVox, or control a CD player with the speech-generating machine. Or have a friend come and sit by the fire, and read to you the old-fashioned way, for a little fellowship!
Nancy uses a special pillow to prop a book or an e-reader up on her lap at just the right angle. She recommends one made by Hog Wild. “It holds the book up for you so your arms don’t get tired, something that's especially importantPillow Book Holder for a reader with ALS,” Nancy says. The pillow is available at amazon.com.
For movies, she suggests scouring the offerings on Redbox, Netflix, Amazon, and local cable stations. Whether you prefer musicals, comedies, dramas, mysteries or even documentaries, there are literally thousands of options.
Pillow Book Holder3. Plan ahead. Nancy recommends that people with ALS strongly consider “banking” their voice in case they lose the ability to speak. If you bank your voice, you’ll be able to say what you’d like – in your own voice – with the help of a speech-generating system. Talk with a speech therapist or your ALS Association technology specialist about how to record your voice.
4. Practice gratefulness. That can be tough to do when you’re dealing with a condition like ALS, Nancy admits, but she finds actively giving thanks helps her keep her perspective. “There is always something to be grateful for,” she says. Some people keep a gratefulness journal to help remind them of the good things happening in their lives when they’re blue, she notes. “I thank God every day for the gifts I have been given: my ability to communicate with the speech-generating device, my family, my caregivers, the beauty of a full moon, the birds that come to the feeders just outside my window, and the friends who have helped me adapt to the many changes ALS brings and still love me anyway!”
Nancy has also started writing to people who have influenced her life: her high school principal, to thank him for her education; a fellow swimmer who once befriended her; her swimming coach, to tell her how much her encouragement means to her now; and others. “Those emails have a ripple effect, sending good wishes back to me. You never know how much other people might need to hear what you say to them!”
5. Give back. Whether you decide to participate in the ALS registry, form a Walk to Defeat ALS® team, or find a clinical trial you could be part of, doing something to help understand and fight ALS not only allows you to make a big difference, but it is rewarding, Nancy says.